Wednesday, October 29, 2008

10 Ways to Get Shiny, Healthy Hair

10 Ways to Get Shiny, Healthy Hair
1. Mind Your SPF

Our skin isn't the only thing that can be damaged by the sun. When hair, especially color-treated tresses, undergoes environmental stress, it tends to get dry and brittle. Ted Gibson, who works with Joy Bryant, recommends his hairsheets for damage control. "They contain a UV absorber that helps to block hair from lightening from the sun and other environmental influences."
2. Shine Serums

Jessica Simpson; © James Devaney/WireImage
Rita Hazan, who also works on Jessica Simpson's blonde mane, recommends serums for an instant boost of shine. "If you need a quick fix, there are spray and liquid shine serums that have the same effect—it's just about personal preference," says Hazan. Forgot to replace that empty bottle of product? Olive oil will work in a pinch. Put a little in the palms of your hands and ever-so-lightly glide the hands over the hair, careful not to press into the scalp.
3. Try Treatments
"Doing conditioning treatments one to two times per week will keep hair healthy and give you nice shine," says Rita Hazan, whose clients include Michelle Williams. Depending on how damaged your hair is, you may need to use a treatment mask twice a week (as opposed to just once).


Kate Beckinsale; © Dave M. Benett/Getty Images
4. Work with Waves
Curly or wavy hair sometimes looks duller because light doesn't reflect off it as well. "Use a leave-in conditioner that will not only hydrate hair but create shine and not weigh down curls," says Adir Abergel, who works on the lush manes of Kate Beckinsale, Anne Hathaway and Nicole Richie. He recommends Paul Mitchell The Conditioner.
5. Try a Cold Blast

"Get shiny hair by shampooing with lukewarm water and finishing with a cool rinse," says Michael Murphy, who has trimmed and styled Katie Holmes's tresses. "This will seal the cuticle and give a more reflective quality to the hair." When the cuticle is closed—which happens when it's cold and it opens when it's warm and humid—the hair lays flat and therefore has more surface area to reflect shine and give the appearance of lustrous locks.
Katie Holmes; © Michael Buckner/WireImage

See how the stars get their glossy manes.
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Jessica Biel; © James Devaney/WireImage


6. Avoid Dead Ends
Frederic Fekkai stylist Adir Abergel, who works with Jessica Biel, Camilla Belle and Jennifer Garner, says frequent trips to the salon is one of the first steps to healthy hair. "Getting regular trims and cutting off any dead ends will keep hair looking fresh," he says. Six to eight weeks is the recommended time between visits. However, you may need to trim more often if you create additional stress on the hair by frequent swimming or coloring.
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7. Quick Shine
If you're in a hurry but your hair needs help, stylist David Babaii—who has worked with Angelina Jolie, Scarlett Johansson and Kate Hudson—says to massage a little hair polish through the hair. He recommends using his WildAid brand, saying that "the clean scent along with its shine properties will have your hair smelling freshly washed and looking extremely shiny." Flyaways can also contribute to an unkempt look. "To smooth the hair, put some of my Volcanic Ash Sculpting Clay onto an unwanted toothbrush then brush away those strays."

See how the stars get their glossy manes.

9. Weekly Buildup Removal
Stylist Ted Gibson, who works on the manes of Anne Hathaway, Angelina Jolie and Claire Danes, says: "Use a clarifying shampoo once-a-week to remove buildup from the hair." This is especially important if you use an excess of styling products or exercise and sweat a lot. Keep Heat to a 10.Minimum
You want to avoid over-drying your hair, says Manhattan-based stylist Michael Murphy, who has worked with supermodels Naomi Campbell and Elle Macpherson. This also forces variety—instead of blowing your hair dry, let it air-dry and wear it up or put it in foam rollers for a new wavy look. If you do blow-dry, "always use a nozzle on the end of your dryer," says Murphy. "It keeps hair from frizzing and prevents it from getting too close to the hair and burning it."
Naomi Campbell; © Nick Harvey/WireImage

Miley Becomes Tabloid Target Thanks to Older Undies Model

Miley Becomes Tabloid Target Thanks to Older Undies Model

Posted Oct. 27, 2008

It looks like Miley Cyrus' goody-two-shoes image, already dinged by various photo flaps, is taking another hit due to her rumored beau, Justin Gaston.

Depending on which spurious tabloid report you believe, the purity ring-sporting teen queen is either looking to ditch her parents' digs and get her own apartment in Los Angeles when she turns 16 next month (per Star, which says she wants a place to "watch movies and eat popcorn and have her boyfriend ... over"), or she's sharing her family's home with the 20-year-old underwear model-cum-wannabe singer (per the National Enquirer, which claims dad Billy Ray "approves" of the "shocking living arrangement" but points out that she's required to keep her bedroom door open when Gaston is present).

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Billy Ray wraps a protective arm around Miley as her maybe-beau Justin Gaston follows the required three paces behind. (©X17Online.com)

Meanwhile, the London Sun tries to connect the dots by contending that Papa Cyrus has given his rapidly maturing, tongue-waggling little girl a birds-and-bees-style talking-to.

A source quotes Billy Ray as saying, "We brought Miley up with good morals and strong religion, but she's at that age where she is bound to be experimenting and her hormones are going nuts."

He then purportedly horn-tooted, "Miley's career is just rolling along now and getting bigger and bigger. Everyone loves her, and she has a shot to have a career like Julia Roberts or Jennifer Aniston or someone like that. I told her in no uncertain terms that her career would be over if something stupid were to happen and she would no longer be a role model for young girls, something she takes very seriously."

In the end, "I think I made an impression on her -- at least I hope so," Billy Ray allegedly concluded. "I don't want to forbid her from dating because that would just make her sneak around. I'd rather have everything up front and out in the open. Miley is a really good kid, but she has to watch her step as far as boys are concerned."

On Saturday, the Disney powerhouse stepped out with her dad and Gaston for brunch and a trip to a recording studio before jetting off to Berlin to promote her "Breakout" album.

And for now at least, she's wisely playing it coy over the stardom-seeking piece of still-tender beefcake, whom she described to Ryan Seacrest last week as a "really great friend" and "a really great Christian guy."

So are they an item?

"Maybe. Maybe not," sidestepped Cyrus, who then pointed out, "Everyone started judging us as soon as we started hanging out ... Right now, everything is, like, really good. I haven't really been answering the question much just because we're just really happy with everything and the way everything has worked out."

But she says if nature takes its course, her parents would be fine with it.

"My family's like, whatever happens, happens," shrugged Miley. "He worked with my dad, so my dad thinks he's really cool."

But the Enquirer, as it is wont to do, goes a bit overboard with the possible trajectory of the age-inappropriate romance, claiming that the Cyrus clan is already plotting the pair's future.

"Justin is the guy Miley's parents see her settling down with a few years down the line," a spy asserts to the tab, which features pics of Gaston partying shirtless with some male pals. "He's handsome, talented, clean-living, goes to church and knows his Bible -- a real catch."

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Rumors increase in last days of U.S.A Presidential campaigns

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Barack Obama is not a member of a socialist party. John McCain is not a foreigner. Sarah Palin is not Trig's grandmother. And Joe Biden is not dropping out of the race.
Oh, and they're not all having sordid affairs.
But it's Rumor Season again in this country, and with just days to go before the election, both campaigns are frantically knocking down these rumors — often spreading virally on the Internet — along with a steady stream of other nasty hints and allegations that range from the questionable to the outrageous.One thing you can believe: It'll only get worse between now and Election Day.
"With just days left to go in the campaign, it's use it or lose it time. If you're a candidate, now's the time to get it out, to sear it in voters minds just before they go to the voting booth," said UC Santa Cruz psychology professor Anthony Pratkanis, who researches propaganda and social influence.
The trouble with rumors, as representatives at both campaigns said, is that even refuting them means they are repeated. Nonetheless, they said sometimes you have just to talk about it, explain why it's false, and move on.
"It's obviously an unfortunate development that we've seen in this election season, more than in elections past, but ultimately we trust the voters and their good sense," said McCain spokesman Brian Rogers.
Obama's spokesman Tommy Vietor said their strategy has been to "confront these rumors head-on" with a designated Web site — stopthesmears.com — and to make sure precinct captains are given factual information to counter the "ridiculous false rumors that have swirled in this campaign."
"Our experience is that voters are smart, voters are resourceful," said Vietor.
Recent rumors, mostly floated online and on conservative radio and television talk shows, have lately intensified about Obama and usually come in the form of questions.
"Who wrote Obama's autobiography, `Dreams From My Father?'" asked conservative Web site and talk show hosts last week, hinting that the writing was so sophisticated and used similar styles, including "water metaphors," that radical William Ayers must have been the true author. He wasn't. Obama was. "Utter hogwash," said Obama organizers debunking the claim.
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Meet the PressAlthough this year's level of rumors has been ferocious and bizarre, the phenomenon of whisper campaigns, misinformation, and smears is as much a part of our nation's roots as elections themselves. Thomas Jefferson was accused of being anti-Christian; his opponents warned that he would destroy the religious fabric and values of the country and promote an orgy of rape, incest, and adultery. John Adams, opponents said, was pro-monarchy and was planning on marrying his son to the daughter of King George III.
"These smears are a great American tradition, going back to our earliest contested elections," said Pratkanis.
Eight years ago, McCain lost a strong lead in the South Carolina GOP primary, and possibly even the presidency, after what a campaign aide later described as "a textbook example of a smear." Using e-mails and push polls, Republican opponents spread the false rumor that his adopted Bangladeshi-born daughter was actually his biological and illegitimate black child. That lie was enough, observers said, to lose South Carolina.
For the past two years, Obama faced the vast majority of false rumors in this long election season. But when Alaska's Gov. Sarah Palin was tapped to be McCain's running mate, a deluge of rumors began about this little-known Republican from a remote state.
Three days after her selection, reporters from a dozen national media organizations including the AP lined up at a Palmer, Alaska, courthouse counter and, one after another, paged through a divorce settlement of a friend of Palin's to see if she was named as the cause of their strife. She was not. But they've sought her baby's birth records, combed through her meeting minutes, and someone even hacked her private e-mail. Still the rumors haven't stopped.
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Meet the Press"Terrible and false rumors have dogged Senator Obama for the past two years, no doubt, but the Republican ticket has quickly caught up. At one point there were 93 separate rumors about Palin," said Nick DiFonzo, a psychologist and rumor expert at Rochester Institute of Technology in upstate New York. "I think everyone's a loser in this situation."
Rumors are most effectively floated either when a candidate is first introduced, so that voters see everything that follows through the screen of those initial rumors. Or they're floated just before the election, so the smears are fresh in voters' minds when they go to the polls.
Andy Martin, a self-described "anti-Obama nemesis," is the source of some of the most vicious rumors about Obama including current claims that the candidate lied about who is real father is.
"Look, the way I see it, one person's rumor is another person's fact," said Martin. He said spreading rumors is "disgusting and I never do it" but conceded that his own earlier claim that the candidate was a secret Muslim, something he repeated on nationally broadcast television and radio talk shows, "is diluted now." Obama is Christian.
UC Santa Cruz literature professor Mary Kay Gammel had a profound, personal lesson about political rumors last month after forwarding an e-mail she had received titled "My Vacation With John McCain" to three friends asking what they thought of it.
The e-mail, which was not written by Gammel and which McCain's campaign said is "100 percent false," described a boorish and crass McCain on a vacation in Fiji in 2000. The e-mail was forwarded to thousands of people, and along the way the author's name was deleted and the Gammel's name was added as the author of it.
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"Then things really went wild," said Gammel, who is on sabbatical this year. Her phone rang nonstop and thousands of e-mails poured in for which she set up an automatic response explaining that she was not the author of the letter and did not know if it was true. She said she tried, herself, to track the source of the rumor hoped someone would research it to find out whether it was true.
More broadly, however, Gammel said she's much more careful about forwarding e-mails and reading rumors.
"I certainly look at them more carefully," she said.
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Confessions of a Beauty Editor

Over the years, we at Allure have grilled hundreds of experts and tried thousands of products. We now reveal our untold secrets.
On a recent Saturday, Allure beauty editor Diana Byrne sank happily in-to a pedicure chair at her neighborhood salon, ready for an hour of tabloid enlightenment. "Unfortunately, the friend I was with told the owner what I did for a living, and she spent the next hour peppering me with questions about the latest makeup, the newest anti-agers, and how she should cut her hair. So much for relaxation and the current state of Brad, Angelina and the kids."
Don't get us wrong—neither Byrne nor any of us at Allure are complaining about a job that pays us to sample makeup colors, consult with leading dermatologists (slipping in a question about our own skin problems), and tote home enough shampoo and conditioner to fill a two-car garage. We've learned not to moan about having to endure three massages in as many days. And even though we pour our on-the-job experiences into each story, we've been holding back on you. It is now confession time: We reveal the tricks and secrets that we apply to our own exfoliated and hydrated selves.
SKIN
OUR MONEY'S ON RETINOIDS
We try every new anti-aging product, from the rice fields of Japan to the labs of Long Island. But the cream that earn a permanent place in our medicine cabinets all have one thing in common: retinoids, the family of vitamin a derivitives including retinol, Retin-A and Renova. "I've looked at more close-up before-and-after pictures than I ever thought possible," says Allure beauty editor Kirstin Perrotta. "The one family of ingredients that reduces wrinkles and firms skin is retinoids. They're consistently recommended by dermatologists and plastic surgeons because they've repeatedly proven in studies to work." And while it's true that some women may experience redness and flaking from retinol and its cousins, the ingredients are now available in such a wide range of formulas and strengths that even Allure's most sensitive-skinned editors are believers.
WE KNOW THERE'S A LOT MORE TO A PRODUCT THAN A PRETTY FACE
Fancy packaging and fancier price tags don't always sway beauty editors, because companies frequently send us new products to sample in generic laboratory containers. "Being a beauty editor makes you blind to price, which can be either good or bad," says Linda Wells, Allure editor in chief. "Years ago, one editor wanted us to recommend pasting Creme de la Mer all over the legs and feet because it's such a great moisturizer. She obviously wasn't paying for it." That editor aside, we've found that the best products come in all kinds of tubs and tubes, and at wildly different prices. "I've tried shmancy shampoos laced with truffles or packaged in gorgeous glass containers," says Perrotta, "and I'm proud to say that my absolute favorite, after years of testing, is ThermaSilk, which sells for $3.79 for a big bottle."
WE WON'T STEP OUTSIDE WITHOUT APPLYING SUNSCREEN— EVEN IN THE DEAD OF WINTER
"It doesn't matter how much money someone spends on Retin-A or photofacials. If she doesn't apply sunscreen every day, she'll look like a raisin when she's in her 50s—maybe even her 40s," Perrotta says. Most of us freely admit that vanity is our primary motivation for slathering on the SPF 30 (with UVA and UVB protection) each morning. But that doesn't mean we aren't keenly aware of the other, more sobering reasons to do so. "We did an article on a woman with melanoma, and she died right before the issue hit the newsstands," Perrotta remembers. "She was only 32. I haven't skipped sunscreen since."
ONLY COPY MACHINES NEED TONER
The pitch from facialists and publicists usually goes like this: Toner removes the soap and dirt that face-washing leaves behind. But we don't see the logic in a product that can be made superfluous simply by rinsing your face a few more times. "I understand why people get sucked into buying these—the black shadow on the cotton ball and the clean, tingly feeling they leave behind," Byrne says. "But I promise you, they aren't necessary at all."
WE SOMETIMES SKIP EYE CREAM
Those tiny pots of cream or gel may feel cool and silky, but they're not a skin-care staple for everyone. Most regular old face lotions can be used safely around the eyes as long as your skin is not sensitive or prone to puffiness. That said, sticking to staples can be pretty dull. "I like to use a separate eye cream because it feels more luxurious," Byrne says.ENHANCING THE SKIN
Wake up fast. Beauty shoots typically begin at the crack of dawn, when no woman is ready for her close-up. "Puffy, tired skin is the bane of my existence," says Strong. To combat that sleepy look, Strong soaks a washcloth in ice water, wrings it out, lays it on the model's skin for a few minutes, and repeats this process several times. "It instantly reduces puffiness," he says. Tammy Fender, an aesthetician in West Palm Beach, suggests her model clients soak cold compresses in her Roman Chamomile Tonic and leave them on the skin for 15 minutes. Not only does this take down puffiness, it also gets rid of redness, she says.
Use eye drops. Since models often get red-eyed from squinting in the studios' bright lights, Buckle uses Naphcon-A Allergy Relief Eye Drops antihistamine eye drops to make their eyes look fresh. Wendy W. Lee, assistant professor of ophthalmic plastic, orbital surgery and oncology at the Bascomb Palmer Eye Institute at University of Miami Miller School of Medicine, says that doing this is safe for occasional use for red or itchy eyes, although everyone should read the package insert because there are some conditions, such as glaucoma, associated with a warning.
Don't spackle. "The model in the skin-care ad should look naturally luminous—not made up," says makeup artist Tyrone Traylor, who has worked on ads for Garnier skin care. He creates a sheer base by dotting the center of the model's forehead with a single dab of foundation, then blends outward using a foundation brush. "The model gets more coverage where she needs it—in the T-zone and cheeks—and less where she doesn't," he says.
Go easy on the powder. "Young-looking skin has a nice sheen," says Buckle. To ensure Stone's skin looks dewy, Buckle refuses to pile on the face powder. "I use blotting papers or translucent powder to take down shine wherever there's too much reflection," he says.
PERFECTING THE BODY
Shed dry skin. Before a shoot, Miriam Azoulay, the makeup artist on Jergens Natural Glow ads, will ask the model to give herself a good scrubbing from the shoulders down. "Getting rid of dead skin with a fresh loofah—especially on the knees and elbows—helps even out the skin tone," she says. To "provide double the exfoliation," Azoulay squirts St. Ives Apricot Scrub on the loofah.
Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize. To make sure the model looks like a glowing vision of health from head to toe, makeup artist Polly Osmond, whose work has appeared in Olay ads, massages drugstore baby oil into the model's body. Since traditional baby oil can be too greasy in real life, Osmond suggests a less slippery alternative, such as baby-oil gel or Palmer's Cocoa Butter.
Cover up. "Any part of the model's body that's exposed in the ad has to look perfect," says Strong, who uses foundation to camouflage spots and even out discoloration. "But putting products on the model's body becomes a nightmare for the art department, because it usually stains the white couch and the model's white clothes," says Strong. (Those stains are typically retouched.) For that reason alone, Giordano loves M.A.C. Face and Body Foundation. "It doesn't rub off onto fabric," she says—convenient for those who aren't on photo shoots as wellHAIR
WE'VE FOUND THE PERFECT HAIRCUT. WELL, AT LEAST FOR NOW
"What I've learned from talking to nine billion stylists is that the most flattering cut—on virtually any hair texture—is a little shaggy and layered. For someone like me, with thick, bushy hair, that means shoulder-length with a few long layers in front," Perrotta says. There should be no elaborate layering in back: It's too Carol Brady on straight hair and too puff-inducing for curls. That also means no layers (above eye-length) on short hair or above the earlobes on long hair. And by long hair, we mean a style that falls no more than a few inches below your collarbone. "If you aren't expected at fifth-period calculus, your hair should not hang lower than your breasts," Byrne says. "It looks like you're trying too hard to reclaim your youth." Sorry, Demi.
WE'RE LAZY, AND WE CHEAT
"I never wash my hair more than three times a week, on the advice of every hairstylist I've ever met," Perrotta says. She goes shampoo-free for up to three days thanks to a few tricks (and some mighty dry hair—do not attempt this if your hair is even slightly oily). "I never load up on styling products like anti-frizz serums or silicone sprays—using more than a dime-size amount only leads to a dirty mess. I wear a pair of sunglasses as a headband to lift my hair when it's flat at the roots. And I always sleep with the upper layers in a little ponytail on top of my head to give my hair extra volume in the morning."
THERE REALLY IS A PERFECT GROWN-UP PONYTAIL
You thought they were all the same, but Byrne has the polished ponytail down to a simple formula. "The secret is positioning it slightly higher on the back of the head. That way, when you brush back the hair on the sides, you're doing it on an upward diagonal," she says. "It's like an instant face-lift." She also adds a tiny dab of shine cream to the ends—"otherwise, it just looks like a gym ponytail."MAKEUP
IT TAKES A LOT OF MAKEUP TO LOOK THIS NATURAL
"People always say, 'Beauty editors don't wear makeup,' but the truth is that we've just picked up enough tricks over the years to make it look a little more convincing," Byrne says. Wells has her routine down to a time-saving system: tinted moisturizer, undereye concealer, blush, brown eye shadow, lash curler, mascara, lip balm on the way to work, and gloss or pink-brown lipstick after she's arrived. "Understated color is better than microdermabrasion at shaving off a few years," Perrotta says. "We've tested every make-up shade, and although it's fun to wear red lipstick or purple eye shadow occasionally, they can make you look older than you actually are."
FOR EVENING, WE ALWAYS DRESS UP OUR EYES
"There's wine to drink, dinner to eat, and people to talk to—you don't want to spend the evening in the bathroom touching up your lipstick," Perrotta says. We've learned to emphasize the eyes by lining the inner rim and the outer lash line with black pencil, then smearing it slightly with a Q-tip, and following with a quick streak of shimmery neutral shadow from lash line to crease. The final—and key—ingredient is layer after layer of mascara. "I just keep going and going," Perrotta says. "Try wedging the wand into the bottom lashes—it darkens them without making a spidery mess."
THERE REALLY IS A WAY TO MAKE SELF-TANNER LOOK BELIEVABLE
"No one tans evenly over their whole face—most people initially get darker on the parts the sun hits first," Byrne says. "The trick is to apply self-tanner the way you would bronzer: Take a small drop and dab it very sparingly on your forehead, the bridge of nose, and over the cheekbones, and use whatever's left on your chin." To avoid blotches and streaks, exfoliate skin first, and allow a half hour for moisturizer to sink in fully before applying self-tanning cream on top.BODY
SOME OF US ARE DIRTY GIRLS…
Our showers may be lined with a king's ransom of products, but it turns out many beauty editors don't use soap from head to toe. Perrotta confesses an aversion to it: "A dermatologist once told me to wash only the parts you really need to in the shower, because many cleansers, no matter how moisturizing they say they are, ultimately dry the skin. Plus, you end up taking a shorter shower this way, which also keeps skin from drying out."
...AND SOME OF US ARE ALMOST OBSESSIVELY CLEAN
There are exceptions to all this filthy behavior—our squeaky-clean editor in chief says she simply cannot function unless she showers each morning with her Olay unscented body wash and shaves with her Mach 3 razor. "At night, I don't care how many glasses of wine I've had, how late it is, or how overcome I am with the flu, I always wash my face," Wells says. "I recently had food poisoning in Milan during the fashion shows, but I forced myself to wash and moisturize my face before I lay down on the bathroom tiles to sleep." (Hello, Howard Hughes.)
WE'RE WAXED, MANICURED, AND CAREFULLY PEDICURED—EVEN IN THE DEAD OF WINTER
"When my nails are painted and my feet are smooth, I feel as if everything in the world is in order, even when it isn't," Wells says. "And you can work while you're sitting in the pedicure chair." Waxing upkeep has a similar psychological boost, with one added incentive: "Take it from someone who's tried stopping," Perrotta says. "It's a thousand times more painful when you start waxing again."
WHEN WE DON'T HAVE TIME FOR THE SPA, WE IMPROVISE
"I don't have the patience to go to a spa and get a real pedicure every two weeks," Perrotta says. "So I do it myself at home. When I take a shower at night and scrub my feet, I paint on a deep red polish. I don't do a good job at all—I just slap it on. I let it dry and go to bed. In my morning shower, after my feet are all wet, all I have to do is reach down and gently scrape the polish off my skin. My feet look almost as good as if I'd spent an hour and a half getting them peppermint scrubbed and painted at a salon."
WE DON'T WEAR FRENCH MANICURES OR PEDICURES—EVER
"I don't care if you reverse the colors or do it with Crayola brights, a French manicure looks cheap," says Allure beauty features editor Amy Keller, who, like most beauty editors, keeps her nails short and paints them either the palest nude shade or a dark, vampy red.
WE KNOW HOW TO MAKE FRAGRANCE LAST WITHOUT FUMIGATING EVERYONE ON THE ELEVATOR
We don't just try to look nice all the time; we try to smell nice all the time, too. Wells reports that she even smoothed on scented body lotion in the midst of labor with each of her two sons. Under less stressful circumstances, she sprays perfume on the backs of her wrists, knees, and neck. "I never rub, because we ran a story saying that rubbing crushes the molecules of the fragrance and ruins the scent." Perrotta spritzes only the inner elbows and behind the knees, "since they stay a little moist. A cosmetics chemist once told me fragrance lasts better in humidity."
OUR TRAVEL BAGS DESERVE AN ENGINEERING AWARD
"I put a checklist on top of my toiletry bag so I can see what I'm missing. And I pack liquids like shampoo in small plastic travel bottles stored in Ziploc bags," says Wells, who prevents leaks by taking off the top, squeezing until the liquid reaches the lip, and holding the squeeze as she replaces the cap. "On overnight flights I also take a separate small kit on the plane, containing lip balm, thick moisturizer, a spray bottle of Evian, a toothbrush, toothpaste, two Olay cleansing cloths, lavender essential-oil spray, breath mints, two extra pairs of contact lenses, eyeglasses, a few Advil, and a few Ambien."
WE WOULDN'T DREAM OF PLUCKING OUR OWN EYEBROWS
Beauty editors would no sooner attempt to shape their own arches than do their own cardiac bypass surgery. "As difficult as it may be, wait between grooming appointments, and let the pro do the tweezing," Wells says. One wrong pluck, and you could have a bald patch for weeks, if not months.
CELLULITE IS A BUMPY ROAD WITH NO EXIT IN SIGHT
If there were a product or treatment that could get rid of cellulite completely, then no rich or powerful women would have it," Perrotta says. "And neither would I!" The caffeine and other active ingredients in these gels and creams don't actually get rid of the bumps; they just make orange-peel skin look a bit smoother—and even that lasts only as long as you keep applying them. After years of dashed hopes, we've struck on one viable alternative: concealment. "Get an airbrush self-tanning treatment, and ask them to spray your butt and upper thighs a litter darker, which really disguises it," Perrotta says.THE TEN COMMANDMENTS
We've distilled thousands of makeup-artist interviews down to ten essential points:
1. Skip concealer beyond the middle of the undereye—it exaggerates wrinkles. 2. Dab creamy cover-up on the inner corners of the eyes, by the bridge of the nose. This is the area that's darkest, and ironically, also the one most women forget. 3. Press loose powder on the T-zone with a puff, paying special attention to the patch between the brows (which can look shinier because of waxing). 4. Curl lashes before applying mascara. It makes fringe look longer and eyes look bigger. 5. Dab the gunky blob of excess mascara from the tip of the wand onto a tissue; otherwise, it'll leave a smudge or a splotch. 6. If you have undereye circles, apply mascara to the top lashes only (on the bottom lashes, it can make dark circles look worse). 7. Apply an extra few coats of mascara to the outer corners of the lashes to make eyes look elongated. 8. Don't line your lips with anything but a pencil that matches your natural lip color. Or skip it entirely. 9. When in doubt, choose a pinkish-brown lipstick, and never apply it beyond the natural lip line or to the corners of your mouth—unless you want to look like the Joker. 10. Before you go out, check your teeth, and rub off that lipstick.

Friday, October 24, 2008

Swami Vivekananda Quotes

All differences in this world are of degree, and not of kind, because oneness is the secret of everything.
Swami Vivekananda

All the powers in the universe are already ours. It is we who have put our hands before our eyes and cry that it is dark.
Swami Vivekananda

As different streams having different sources all mingle their waters in the sea, so different tendencies, various though they appear, crooked or straight, all lead to God.
Swami Vivekananda

Condemn none: if you can stretch out a helping hand, do so. If you cannot, fold your hands, bless your brothers, and let them go their own way.
Swami Vivekananda

External nature is only internal nature writ large.
Swami Vivekananda

GOD is to be worshipped as the one beloved, dearer than everything in this and next life.
Swami Vivekananda

If faith in ourselves had been more extensively taught and practiced, I am sure a very large portion of the evils and miseries that we have would have vanished.
Swami Vivekananda

If money help a man to do good to others, it is of some value; but if not, it is simply a mass of evil, and the sooner it is got rid of, the better.
Swami Vivekananda

In one word, this ideal is that you are divine.
Swami Vivekananda

Never think there is anything impossible for the soul. It is the greatest heresy to think so. If there is sin, this is the only sin; to say that you are weak, or others are weak.
Swami Vivekananda

Our duty is to encourage every one in his struggle to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the Truth.
Swami Vivekananda

Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.
Swami Vivekananda

That man has reached immortality who is disturbed by nothing material.
Swami Vivekananda

The moment I have realized God sitting in the temple of every human body, the moment I stand in reverence before every human being and see God in him - that moment I am free from bondage, everything that binds vanishes, and I am free.
Swami Vivekananda

The more we come out and do good to others, the more our hearts will be purified, and God will be in them.
Swami Vivekananda

The Vedanta recognizes no sin it only recognizes error. And the greatest error, says the Vedanta is to say that you are weak, that you are a sinner, a miserable creature, and that you have no power and you cannot do this and that.
Swami Vivekananda

The will is not free - it is a phenomenon bound by cause and effect - but there is something behind the will which is free.
Swami Vivekananda

The world is the great gymnasium where we come to make ourselves strong.
Swami Vivekananda

Truth can be stated in a thousand different ways, yet each one can be true.
Swami Vivekananda

We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.
Swami Vivekananda

When an idea exclusively occupies the mind, it is transformed into an actual physical or mental state.
Swami Vivekananda

Where can we go to find God if we cannot see Him in our own hearts and in every living being.
Swami Vivekananda

You cannot believe in God until you believe in yourself.
Swami Vivekananda

You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual. There is no other teacher but your own soul.
Swami Vivekananda

Top 25 Success Quotations

Top 25 Success Quotations.

Consider what it takes to become an undeniable success with these sincere quotations that identify the fundamental factors necessary to triumph...

" Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other thing."
-- Abraham Lincoln

"God gave us two ends. One to sit on and one to think with. Success depends on which one you use; head you win -- tails, you lose."
-- Anonymous

"The ladder of success is best climbed by stepping on the rungs of opportunity. "
-- Ayn Rand

"Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get."
-- B. R. Hayden

"Success is a journey, not a destination. "
-- Ben Sweetland
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"The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes."
-- Benjamin Disraeli

"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody."
-- Bill Cosby

"The secret of success is to be in harmony with existence, to be always calm? to let each wave of life wash us a little farther up the shore."
-- Cyril Connolly

"All of us are born for a reason, but all of us don't discover why. Success in life has nothing to do with what you gain in life or accomplish for yourself. It's what you do for others."
-- Danny Thomas

"Don't confuse fame with success. Madonna is one; Helen Keller is the other."
-- Erma Bombeck

"Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion. You must first set yourself on fire."
-- Fred Shero

"Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time."
-- George Bernard Shaw

"A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success."
-- Joyce Brothers

"Failure is success if we learn from it."
-- Malcolm S. Forbes

"The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself."
-- Mark Caine

"True success is overcoming the fear of being unsuccessful. "
-- Paul Sweeney

"Get up one time more than you're knocked down."
-- Peter's Principle of Success

"Most people who succeed in the face of seemingly impossible conditions are people who simply don't know how to quit."
-- Robert Schuller

"The truth is that all of us attain the greatest success and happiness possible in this life whenever we use our native capacities to their greatest extent."
-- Smiley Blanton

"When your physical environment is in alignment with your aspiration, success becomes the norm."
-- Susan St Lawrence

"The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people."
-- Theodore Roosevelt

"The way to succeed is to double your error rate."
-- Thomas Watson
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"Dictionary is the only place that success comes before work. Hard work is the price we must pay for success. I think you can accomplish anything if you're willing to pay the price."
-- Vince Lombardi

"Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm."
-- Winston Churchill

"Success is the maximum utilization of the ability that you have."

Six Reasons Salary Statistics Don't Tell the Whole Story

We've all read those fantastical career stories about starting salaries that sound too good to be true. While the old saying 'if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is,' can be true in many cases, those starting salary statistics do hold some truth. There's more to those sometimes eye-popping starting salary statistics than, well than meets the eye. You've heard of six degrees of separation? Think of this as six reasons to get a degree.

Double Your Money

It used to be that blood, sweat and tears were all that someone needed in order to achieve top-dollar status. The times, however, are changing. These days, you generally need to have your college degree if you want to get ahead in most careers. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, bachelor's degree holders earn over 50 percent of the annual salary of someone with just a high school diploma. Not only does this make a sizeable impact on your monthly paycheck, consider this for further motivation to get your degree: over the average American adult's working life, high school graduates earn an average of $1.2 million; associate degree holders earn about $1.6 million; and bachelor's degree holders earn about $2.1 million.

Job Retention

To paraphrase Mark Twain, there are three kinds of lies: lies, darn lies and statistics. In this case, the statistics are hard to refute. Not only do college graduates earn more over their lifetime, but finding a new job and keeping it can be easier for those who have college degrees. According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, 'Education pays in higher earnings and lower unemployment rates.' The BLS reports an unemployment rate of 1.4 percent in 2007 for those with a doctoral degree, 1.8 percent for those with a master's degree, 2.2 percent for those with a bachelor's degree, 3.0 percent for those with an associate degree, and 4.4 percent for those with only a high school diploma. In other words, those without at least a bachelor's degree from either an online or campus based college were twice as likely to experience unemployment. Even an associate degree improves the odds by over a percentage point.

More than Money

The intrinsic value of a college diploma extends far beyond better job prospects, career training and enhanced wage earning potential. According to College Board, individuals who have attended college receive more than just salary benefits. Benefits such as vacation time and health insurance are greater for college graduates. Those with degrees also benefited from improved working conditions and greater professional mobility. A degree often gives you more options -- not only in what you choose to do for living, but where, when and how you choose to do it.

Health Benefits

The College Board also reports encouraging demographic statistics for college graduates. For example, many who have completed a college diploma program have priceless health benefits such as longer life expectancy and lower risk of obesity and heart disease. Even more important to many parents who are considering going back to school, children of college graduates generally have a better quality of life as well as improved test scores and cognitive abilities.

A Better Work-Life Balance

In addition to the salary, employment, and fringe and health benefits, college graduates have the unexpected benefit of the fun factor. Not only are college graduates more likely to go hiking and camping, they are also more likely to go to amusement parks, art museums and sporting events. They vote more and they tend to read more. They also pay more taxes, but that's because they earn more.

Life Satisfaction

While having more money, more fringe benefits and more leisure time are compelling reasons to get your college degree, there are many less obvious but just as important reasons why pursuing a degree is worthwhile. You will have the satisfaction of learning about things that interest you and expanding your knowledge and skills. While these are not the primary reasons most people initially choose to attend college, they are the elements that many graduates appreciate the most after having obtained their degree. You'll learn to think critically and strategically. You'll also learn how to manage your time.

Money talks, but salary statistics don't tell the whole story. No matter what career path you intend to follow, a higher degree can position you to make the most of your opportunities. While receiving a bigger paycheck is a huge bonus, getting your college degree can have a wide-ranging impact on your - and your children's -- quality of life.

Does It Pay To Be the Bad Guy at Work?

One of my favorite high school teachers was also one of the least liked by many students. He assigned a lot of homework, gave the kind of exams I had nightmares about and therefore gave only mostly Bs and Cs each semester. In class, when someone gave the wrong answer, he didn't humor us by saying, "Well, almost ... " He would tell you that wasn't the right answer without belittling you and then asked if anyone else knew the correct response. He was the exact opposite of the popular teachers. Still, those who dared to take his class actually respected him quite a bit.

My GPA didn't like him, but I learned a lot more from his class than any other. If I gave an incorrect answer in class, I never forgot the right one. I learned how to study and to accept imperfect scores -- both valuable lessons when I went to college.

The whole tough love approach wasn't easy to take, and at times I imagine it wasn't easy for him to be the bad guy, but it worked out for the best. It's a good approach to use in business, too.

What does bad mean?

At work, there are two types of bad guys or gals. One is the actual enemy -- the person who sets out to make your life miserable. This could be the co-worker who steals your ideas and then makes you look incompetent in front of the boss. The other kind is the person who will take unpopular stances for the good of the company.

At first glance, being the second type of bad guy doesn't seem so bad because your ultimate purpose is an admirable one. But, do you want to explain to the boss that her new plan is actually an old one that failed miserably? Do you want to tell your colleague that his work ethic is damaging the team's reputation? Honesty can earn you a reputation as the enemy rather than the tough-love friend and alienate co-workers who don't see you as a team player.

How to make the bad image work for you

Whether you're the CEO or an administrative assistant, everybody wants respect. Remember: Anyone can complain, but a critical thinker can offer insight for people to consider. If you're going to express an unpopular opinion, justify it and offer some good alternatives instead of just problems.

When you're highlighting someone's mistake, be honest but tactful. If you have a caustic tone when you approach some team members about an unsuccessful deadline, you'll immediately put them on the defensive. Speaking down to anyone, especially in front of other people, will reflect worse on you than on the person who made a mistake.

Think about my unpopular high school teacher. He didn't coddle us but he didn't make us feel stupid. Would you want to work for a boss who didn't have the same respect for you? Probably not, says Laurent Duperval, president of Duperval Consulting.

"Employees want to be treated with respect and they want to feel valuable," Duperval cautions. If your type of bad guy is disrespectful and humiliating, then don't expect to receive much appreciation in return.

Duperval witnessed examples of the wrong kind of bad guy on multiple occasions. When a boss fired an employee via e-mail, several other employees soon found work elsewhere because they didn't want to receive the same disrespect. Chances are, if the person was fired for just cause, the other employees wouldn't have feared for their jobs. But if the boss didn't have the decency to tell the person face-to-face, in private, what else would he be willing to do when they made a mistake?

Being Mr. or Mrs. Popular shouldn't be your No. 1 work goal, of course; but you should think about the kind of culture your harsh critiques cultivates.

"One person's good guy is the next person's bad guy and vice versa. The question is: Did you get compliance or commitment?" Duperval asks. "With compliance, you get what you want in the short term, but the long-term price can be steep."

How can you do it right?

Being the bad guy (but really being the good guy) isn't impossible, it just requires careful attention.

- Don't throw anyone under the bus. You'll come off as a traitor if you're quick to pin blame on someone without offer suggestions of how you can collectively improve next time.

- Don't mistake honesty for cruelty. Telling the truth isn't painless, but it doesn't need to be torture.

- Keep things in perspective. Sometimes it's OK to let little things slide. Nobody's perfect, so there's no need to highlight every mistake someone makes.

- Be the good guy, too. When something goes well, make a point to mention it. Being the bearer of bad news gets old for both you and others.

Thursday, October 23, 2008

"In my research, 9 out of 10 people who've lost weight and maintained it exercise regularly and make it a critical part of their lives," says Fletcher. Even if you've never been a fitness fanatic, it's not too late to get moving. Even taking a few 15-minute walks throughout the day will be a move in the right direction. Once you start to enjoy the mood-boosting and calorie-burning advantages of exercise, start looking for ways to keep your workouts interesting. Join a local gym and try a variety of classes and cardio machines, find friends to walk with, or experiment with at-home exercise DVDs.

They don't solve problems with food

Almost everyone is guilty of occasionally drowning their sorrows in a pint of Ben & Jerry's or taking out frustration on a batch of brownies, but thin people definitely don't make it a habit. "They tend not to eat purely for emotional reasons," says Fletcher. When you are upset (or bored, lonely, frustrated or angry), she suggests asking yourself: Is food really going to solve the problem, or will it just end up making you feel worse after you finish eating? Chances are, the food won't fix what's bothering you, so it's important to come up with a list of other small pleasures you can turn to instead of food. Some ideas include going for a walk, watching a movie, calling a friend, playing with your kids, or taking a bubble bath.

They stop eating when they're full

Most thin people are not members of the clean-plate club. Instead of mindlessly eating however much they are served, they pay attention to internal hunger cues and satiety. "Thin people are tuned into noticing when they are satisfied, and they stop eating even if there is food left," says Jill Fleming, M.S., R.D., author of Thin People Don't Clean Their Plates (Inspiration Presentations Press, 2005). "They often report that they don't like that feeling of being uncomfortably full, so they've learned how to stop before they reach it."

They eat breakfast
According to the National Weight Control Registry, which tracks the habits and strategies of more than 5,000 people who have maintained a significant weight loss, nearly 80 percent of these successful losers eat breakfast every single day. And most of their naturally lean counterparts do the same, and make sure that eat within about an hour of waking up. "Breakfast is literally breaking the fast of the night," says Fleming. "Until you send food into your system, your metabolism doesn't really start to kick in."

Overnight Slow-Roasted Pork

Recipe courtesy of Jamie Oliver, taken from his cookbook "Cooking with Jamie"

OVERNIGHT SLOW-ROASTED PORK

Serves 12

2 tablespoons fennel seeds
1 tablespoon sea or rock salt
2 fennel bulbs, trimmed and roughly chopped
4 medium carrots, peeled and roughly chopped
3 onions peeled and roughly chopped
1 bulb of garlic, cloves unpeeled and roughly smashed
Bunch of fresh thyme
1 11–13 lb piece of pork shoulder on the bone, preferably free-range or organic, skin scored
Olive oil
750ml bottle of white wine
1 pint chicken or vegetable stock

Jamie says: "Pork that's cooked this way gives you the most meltingly tender meat. This is the last job we do in the evening at the restaurant before we go home, so that when we get to work the next day we have the best roast pork to serve for lunch—you can do the same at home, as it's incredibly easy. This recipe only works with a whole shoulder, so it's an ideal dish to serve on Christmas Day when you have a lot of people around (as long as you remember to put it in the oven on Christmas Eve!). Ask your butcher to prepare you a shoulder roast from the whole shoulder as you would a shoulder of lamb."

"P.S. This is a fantastic celebration meal, but before you go out and buy your meat, make sure you've got a pan—and an oven—that's big enough."

1. Preheat your oven to maximum.

2. Smash the fennel seeds with the salt in a pestle and mortar until fine.

3. Put the roughly chopped vegetables, garlic, and thyme sprigs into a large roasting pan.

4. Pat the pork shoulder with olive oil and sit it on top of the vegetables. Now massage all the smashed fennel seeds into the skin of the pork, making sure you push them right into all the scores to maximize the flavor.

5. Put the pork in your preheated oven for 20 to 30 minutes or until it's beginning to color, then turn your oven down to 250°F and cook the pork for 9 to 12 hours, until the meat is soft and sticky and you can pull it apart easily with a fork.

6. Tip all the wine into the roasting tray and let it cook for another hour to give you a perfect sauce.

7. Once the pork is out of the oven, let it rest for half an hour before removing it to a large board. I like to brush off any excess salt from the meat, then I mash up the veg in the pan using a potato masher. Add the stock to the roasting pan, put it on the heat and boil until you have a lovely intensely flavored gravy (you can thicken it with a little sieved flour if you like but I prefer mine light). The pork is great served with some good cranberry beans, braised greens, your roast veg mash and tasty sauce.

PENELOPE COOKS THE PORK

My butcher says an 11 to 13 pound pork shoulder is a special order—"I'm not even sure they come that big," he told me, "and I've been doing this 30 years"—and sold me two 6-pound shoulders, or butts, as he put it, instead. These fit nicely side by side in my roasting pan, which is an oval ceramic one, about 20 inches long, with a top. I had the top off for the first half hour, and on for the rest of the day. I started cooking at 9 A.M.; the pork was gloriously melty by 3 or 4, and still so, when I turned it off at 6:30. You pour a bottle of white wine in for the last hour or so. After you remove the pork, all that wine is boiled and reduced to stunning sauce.

Oliver says he likes to serve the pork with cranberry beans and braised greens; he doesn't offer recipes for either, which is sort of irritating. (I served salad and Dinner-Lady Carrots, too.). After the soaking and cooking, I tossed the beans with olive oil, parsley, and lemon, and they were dull. Oliver, of course, could make them sing in some incredibly simple but zingy way. I wish I knew what that was.

Knowing When to Help Others

I was recently at the grocery store checkout line. There was an older man in front of me in one of those carts to drive around the store in. He was with a woman and they were unloading the basket on the cart. She moved up to watch the scan go through and I watched him struggle with a 24-can case of soda that was by his feet. In order to place it on the conveyer, he would have to turn nearly backwards. He appeared to be struggling, so, I tried to help him.

He jerked the case away and gave me a mean look. I backed off and apologized saying that I was just trying to help. He placed the soda on the conveyer, smiled and thanked me.

I was raised to be helpful. I understand that as people age, they can feel insulted by kind gestures. How do I know when to help someone and when not to? I don't want to insult someone, but I also don't want them to hurt themselves either.


It is wonderful to be helpful, and Miss Manners commends you. But surely you know the old story about the Boy Scout who kindly helped an old lady across the street, having neglected to inquire whether she wanted to cross the street. She didn't.

For all you know, the poor gentleman might have thought you were going to wrest his soda away from him and march off with it. Next time, please ask, "Would you like some help with that?" before you grab.

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I am currently in a serious relationship with a wonderful man and we have been talking about marriage. The situation is this: his former wife passed away nearly 2 years ago and they did not have any children together. His wife, however, had two daughters from a previous marriage.

What is the proper way to deal with his deceased wife's diamond ring? He would like to trade it in on a new ring for me but doesn't want to cause any hard feelings with his step-daughters. Is he obligated to offer an $8000 ring to one of the daughters just because he was married to their mother? Also, should I offer to trade in the ring from my previous marriage? I am divorced and have 2 children.


Surely if the wife had wanted her daughters to have the ring, she could have left it to them, as it was hers to dispose of as she liked. And as the husband apparently inherited it, it is now his to dispose of as he likes. Just as your ring from your previous marriage is yours, etc.

But any old lawyer could have told you that. What worries the gentleman is the emotional element. Miss Manners questions whether there is any.

If the daughters had wanted the ring -- and just how would he split one ring between the two of them? -- they might have said so when their mother died. And that they should have had a sentimental attachment to the symbol of their mother's marriage to someone she married after their father seems unlikely.

It is, however, true that people sometimes develop far-fetched sentiments when diamonds are involved. For that reason, Miss Manners suggests that the gentleman not provoke such a possibility by discussing his plans. Seeing you wearing the stones in an unrecognizable setting should not then set off any alarms.